It’s easy to conceive of home on an epic scale – as a finished product, an ideal in the mind. We are slow perhaps to conceive of homemaking and, with it, the creation of beauty within the home, on the level of the everyday and ordinary, even the mundane. – The Life Giving Home
The glow of a candle as you make your coffee in the morning, the sun kissing your face through a window in the dead of winter, the warmth of laundry fresh from the dryer, the smell of lavender in a linen closet, the rhythm of your feet as you walk down the halls of your home. The contentment you feel gathered around the dining table with the ones you love. Our lives are made up of hundreds of ordinary moments. There’s value in them, beauty, joy we just have to open our eyes and hearts to them. Homemaking can sometimes feel mundane, its repetitive and never ending, but there’s beauty there, and joy… you just have to open your heart to it.
When my husband and I were first married I was working full time which meant monday-friday and every other saturday I was at work. I did all the cooking and my husband cared for the outdoor chores and typically we worked together over the weekend to tidy up and catch up on any tasks that needed doing. We had a nice little system and it worked for us. To be honest, though, we were young, both working outside the home, and when we weren’t working we were off doing something. So our home was pretty tidy most of time…because well, we weren’t in it.
Enter children, after our first son was born I went back to work part time. Since I was spending so much more time at home during the week caring for our son I found myself falling into a rhythm of homemaking. It was during this time as a young mother that my passion for simple homemaking, blossomed. I saw the value in creating a home of refuge, peace, and comfort for my little family. It felt so rewarding to have a place that was both welcoming and homey, yet orderly and tidy. About a year and a half later my husband and I decided it would be most beneficial for our family that I stay home full time. This was a huge leap of faith, but we trusted that the Lord would provide in ways we couldn’t imagine! He has been so faithful to us.
Before long I was expecting our second son. Now that I was no longer working outside of the home, it became my primary duty to care for our boys and be the keeper of our home. That’s not to say my husband doesn’t lend a hand. He’s always willing and helpful when I need him, but I like to think of homemaking as my job in a sense. Just as my husband leaves every morning, pouring himself into his work to provide for his family I am pouring myself into my home and children providing for them in different ways. And while we may not be rewarded monetarily as full time homemakers, there are rewards for our hard work. When we put our energy, time, and love into caring for our family and our homes we will be blessed for it. I realize that our home and family life may not look like yours. We all have different circumstances and roads we are traveling. So even if you aren’t a full time homemaker, I hope you find encouragement in these words!
I’ve found over the years the importance of both routine and flexibility. Also the importance of starting my day off right and in God’s word. I talked about my morning routine here, how I make it meaningful and successful. You can also find my cleaning rhythm here.
When we approach our work as God given we are able to see the pleasures in it. In those moments when I may feel stressed, overwhelmed, or wonder why I even bother I remind myself, “You are working for the Lord and your family.” Waking up each morning and pouring our hearts into our family and home is a beautiful thing. Sometimes though, it may be messy, it may not always be a straight perfect path. There will be hills and valleys, but it’s beautiful, its God given and it’s good.
I’ve been collecting some scripture verses that I love reflecting on and keeping them hidden in my heart in those moments when I find myself stressed, overwhelmed, grumpy, discouraged… I hope they encourage and uplift you today!
Scripture verses to encourage you through your day
Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters. – Colossians 3:23 Whether you work outside the home, in the home, whether you have children, no children..it doesn’t matter. If you have a home, you are technically a “homemaker” Focusing your time and energy on a home and family is a lot of work, its sacrificial. Often times caring for others above yourself. Find comfort in knowing you are working for the the Lord.
Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established – Proverbs 16:3
In all things I have shown you that by working hard in this way we must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive. – Act 20:35
So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. – 1 Corinthians 10:31 Be reminded that your attitude can either tear down or build up. I love that quote, “if you want to change the world go home and love your family.” Perspective is a huge part of joyful homemaking. No matter the task or how mundane it feels… Keeping your home and being joyful as you do it is glorifying the Lord.
And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that having all sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work. – 2 Corinthians 9:8
Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.” – Philippians 2:12-15 My attitude is a choice and more often than not if my day isn’t going well, it’s because of my attitude towards the situations I’m encountering. These moments need refocusing, prayer, and petitions to the Lord. Rather than grumbling, find reasons to be grateful in those moments. There is always, alway, always, something to be thankful for.
Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. – Colossians 3:16
The most important work you will ever do will be within the walls of your own home. – While there is always work do around our homes and if you have children you know, nothing stays in place long…I like to remind myself though, the house isn’t dirty…there is simply life within it’s walls. While I love things neat and tidy and in order [and don’t be fooled a cluttered, messy house makes my eyes twitch sometimes, haha] it’s important to create a home where everyone within it can LIVE…part of being a joyful as a homemaker is being reminded that all of our work is important, the housework and the heart work. Pour into your kiddos and your husbands, save space in your day for fun. Create spaces where the kiddos can play, get them involved in the home tasks and make it fun. Put the dish towel down and go sit with your husband for a few moments and talk…So many aspects of old fashioned home life are disappearing. Let’s teach our children the importance of old fashioned things, simple things, home things, and family centered things!
As homemakers our work will never be “done” there will always be something to do…but we aren’t called or expected to do it all. It’s just not possible. When we approach our days with happy and grateful hearts, when we are honest with ourselves that we can’t “do it all” nor are we expected to. When we keep our eyes fixed on Jesus, we find joy. We find relief, we find calm, we find grace. Our homes are most beautiful and most orderly when they are centered around Christ…all the rest will work itself out when He is our focus.
These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the door frames of your houses and on your gates. – Deuteronomy 6:6-9 Like I have mentioned above, its crucial as Christian homemakers to write God’s word on our hearts. But don’t stop there, write them on your door frames and gates. Having scripture on my heart and in my memory are wonderful, but I like to take it a step further and have reminders sprinkled throughout my home. Those verses that are written are often exactly what I need to read in those tough moments!
By wisdom a house is built, And by understanding it is established; And by knowledge the rooms are filled With all precious and pleasant riches – Proverbs 24:3-4
Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life. – Psalm 143:8
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law – Galatians 5:22-23
May your mundane realities be the ground in which you plant the seeds of faith, beauty, and hope that sprout into a life marked by the goodness of God. – The Life Giving Home